In two hours, I am leaving for a week-long vacation in this town in Kashmir.
Clearly, I – and the four individuals who will be accompanying me – are insane.
July 31, 2008 at 8:36 pm (India)
In two hours, I am leaving for a week-long vacation in this town in Kashmir.
Clearly, I – and the four individuals who will be accompanying me – are insane.
July 28, 2008 at 11:28 am (Family)
From an e-mail from my father, sent very early this morning (yesterday evening, US time).
I’m a little sad as I type this email. Just after we got home from the movies today I got a call from Aunt Jean’s doctor. I knew she wasn’t doing well and I was expecting such a call. Aunt Jean passed away around 3:30 this afternoon and I went to the nursing home after, to kiss her goodbye.
I’m glad we all got together in May to celebrate her 100th birthday and I’m trying to focus on all the happy memories I have. Whenever I spoke to Aunt Jean she always asked about you. She was very proud of you and I am very proud of you as well. Thats all I can say for now.
Dad
I have written about Aunt Jean before. And while I may have expected this, as well, I was not ready to see her go. As long as I have been alive – and as long as my father, before me, and his before him – she has been here. She was such a driving force, even when she was unwell or when we were out of contact for months at a time, her presence was always, always known.
Do not be daunted by the enormity of the world’s grief. Do justly, now. Love mercy, now. Walk humbly, now.
She was 100 years old, and it was still not enough.
The world is a darker place for her absence.
July 26, 2008 at 12:29 pm (India)
‘Serial bombs’ hit India’s IT hub
Indian cities on high alert after blasts.
Within 2 days.
Just an update to say I’m fine. Tired, a little concerned (Delhi is on High Alert, and the police were walking the metro with their guns out today), but mostly just massively angry and discontented in general and missing home and the West and a lot of cultural familiarities I took for granted among my peers. Suffice it to say that while individual experiences may be great at the moment, the experience as a whole could be substantially better.
Oh, and our kitchen worker/cook has been diagnosed with TB.
July 24, 2008 at 2:24 am (India)
It’s hard to explain the contrasts I’ve experienced in India since I’ve been here – just over a week now. Delhi is a massive, and massively unregulated, city. It is as if urban sprawl has been allowed to go unchecked for the last three thousand years. But from the chaotic network of roads that holds this place together, to the breathtaking view of the Himalayas from the small mountain town of Mussoorie, this country has ups and downs both of altitude and of character.
We live in a gated neighborhood called Niti Bagh, in New Delhi, and the first few days our group of twelve students mostly spent being oriented (or dis-oriented, as the case may be), and exploring the markets around us and the nearby neighborhoods. We got health and safety lectures, history lessons, and then on Saturday morning we woke up at an hour so early it shouldn’t be named and boarded the Shatabdi Express train to head up into Mussoorie, and the mountains, for the weekend. The first leg of the journey was a five hour ride to Dehradun, a small city at the foot of the mountains, wherein in the train tracks simply stop short, unable to cope with the suddenly sloping foothills and so just ceasing to exist.
(We had a twenty minute stopover in a dirty town called Saharanpur, but besides the fact that they’re famous for furniture, you don’t need to know about that. What you do need to know is this: the bathrooms on Indian trains are downright foul. Not just because they’re filtyh and unhygienic – though both of those are true. But because the toilets funnel down a slope through which, if you angle your head back and peer down, you will notice opens directly onto the tracks. So no matter what business you enter the powderroom to carry out, whether it be standard or, erm, executive, an underhead view of the train would be most unpleasant. I read that morning in the local paper that India has the highest rate of open defecation in the world. I can’t imagine why.)
It was an additional two hours by car from Dehradun up the winding roads of the Himalayas. They say the only substitute for bad manners is good reflexes, and Indian drivers seem to prove that rule ineffably true. Our cab drivers were both kind and courageous, darting in and out of insane sorts of traffic, whether it be vehicular, pedestrian, or animal.
Seven hours of travel and the sheer exhaustion was worth it, though. Mussoorie is a lovely small tourist town in the mountains – about 8,000 people which is hefty to my central Pennsylvania standards but nonexistant by Indian ones. The town is one large bazaar, either a single expansive market or an interwoven series of dozens of small markets, I’m not sure. The prices were cheaper than Delhi, and the haggling was fun and sometimes even successful. The accomodations of our hotel left much to be desired, but this was fast becoming a matter of habit for us so while complaining was one option, which some people chose to exercise at some times, most of us just shut up and dealt with sleeping on damp mattresses and taking cold showers and considered it Part Of The Experience.
This experience also included a side trip to a small mountain town called Dehnolti. It is worth pointing out here that Mussoorie is at a higher altitude than Denver, Colorado, and Dehnolti higher even than that. At around 8,000 ft. above sea level, ears were popping all over the place. Upon our hike up the mountain Dehnolti sits on, past 10,000 ft. to reach a Hindu temple devoted to Shiva, the hardiest of us were breathless and I was close to dead. Additionally, hiking up the Himalayan mountains with a messenger bag is a feat. Additionally to that, doing it in open-toed shoes makes it interesting. Oh, and also, clutching your inhalers for dear life makes it hard to climb, and once you realize you’re climbing in harsh rains and wading through mud and donkey dung, it is truly nothing short of a novel experience.
The only way I was able to make it up, straggling past the entire crew save one girl who kept pace with me, and breaking every five minutes or so, was by promising myself that it would be worth it when (if?) I got there. That turning around would suck.
“Maaf kejiye,” I’d huffed, stopping a family that walked by as my friend Laura and I sat on the rocks gulping down the thin mountain air. Excuse me. They turned around to look at me in surprise. I stumbled for a moment, mangling what twenty words of Hindi I knew but determined to psych myself up for the last leg of the journey. “Chalia bahut.” We’re walking too much. I gestured to my chest. “The temple – is close?”
The husband nodded cheerfully. “Yes!” he said. “Close close.”
I nodded and thanked him, standing so we could continue walking. It turned out that his definition of close was nowhere near as close as I would have liked it to be.
The temple was nice. Not mind-blowing as I’d expected, but watching other people’s reactions to it was almost more rewarding than trying to gauge my own. I took some pictures and encountered agan the family I’d stopped on the trail up. The husband signed to me to ask if I could take pictures of their family with his camera – his beautiful wife, two gorgeous little boys, and a grandfather. I obliged, and then held up my own camera, gesturing to the boys, and said, “Tikh hai?” Is it all right? He nodded and roped them back in for a photo shoot, their faces so stony serious for what couldn’t have been more than three, four years old each. They were rigid, like the statues of Shiva behind them. It was adorable.
As I found myself thanking this family for the second time now, our group reassembled and prepared to turn back around and hike down to Dehnolti, when the husband gesture to me from outside a locked door above us, that led into a worship room of some sort. One of the other guys, Sean, and myself exchanged looks and went back up the staircase to the family.
The man noticed the rest of the group I was with and waved to them as well, and slowly, unsure, we all came up to the door as a temple worker unlocked it and ushered us inside. As soon as the tin plates arrived we knew what was happening, and as the grandfather and another old man joined us and gestured for us to sit and join them, the lot of us exchanged worried looks. We had been asked to dine with the family, to eat the temple food, and while incredibly kind of them it was also incredibly dangerous for us. Problem being that it is incredibly rude to refuse food in India – it is fine to nibble, to leave extras on your plate, but suspect to deny outright. Doubly so for a family that had been so gracious.
Trying not to grimace, we requested small portions, and ignored the rainwater they poured for us to drink altogether. We each had a few bites of the rice and curry, trying to converse between the broken English of the husband, grandfather and young boy who’d served our food – and our even more broken Hindi.
“We are so asking for it,” Sean whispered to me as he looked down at his plate.
“Yes,” I said. “This is tempting fate. I wonder who of us will be sick first.”
The experience was an incredible one, though. The family was kind, the food was good, despite potentially deadly, and after a fond farewell the hike back down was nowhere near as devastatingly demanding as the hike up had been. All went smoothly for the rest of the day with shopping, laughing, and the following day’s preparations to visit a few surrounding schools for Tibetan refugees and walk around the markets some more and visit a Buddhist temple that the Dali Laama visited regularly.
And, well, in case you were wondering the answer to the “who’ll get sick first” riddle, I can give you a hint.
No, really, guess.
July 18, 2008 at 10:58 pm (India)
I wanted to post quickly because we haven’t had as much time to detox and write letters/call home as I thought we would. There have been a lot of trips to the markets in Delhi so far (some for exploration purposes, some to get some local clothing… which is much harder for guys than it has been for the girls). All the meals are pre-scheduled and academic lectures, like previews of the classes, are very time consuming.
Also? It’s hot. Even at 10pm sitting on the roof with some of the other kids and Parul, our residence hall advisor, I’m still pouring sweat and wiping my forehead every few minutes.
We are going up the a town called Missourie, which sounds strangely like Missouri, up in the Himalayas this weekend. It’s a 6 hour ride north of Delhi and will be colder and more rural, and they’ve told us to leave our computers at home and the cell phones might not have fantastic reception. I’ll be there until Monday afternoon my time. I’ve uploaded a few pictures with this post just to give some “flavor” since I’m not exactly down for articulate descriptions at the moment. This is only a slice, however, of the photos I’ve got – I’ve kept my camera plenty busy.
(The first few are from our first day of exploring outside Niti Bagh, the gated neighborhood we’re living in. We found a gorgeous park and monument of an old temple and got to walk around them. Eliot, the girl in the first picture, knows just enough Hindi to read the signs, but usually not enough to tell us what they say.)






July 11, 2008 at 1:38 pm (Pre-departure)
Hi everyone!
Okay, so most people know that I am leaving for India in three days. What you probably don’t know is how horribly little packing I’ve done, so let me explain.
No, there is too much to explain. Let me sum up.
My basement looks like the Gulf Coast in the middle of August. There is clothing in desperate need of washing, like, everywhere. On the bed. On the floor. Draped over an as-yet-packed suitcase. Hanging from the fan. There’s another pile of clothing I intend to pack but have since judged “unfit”, mostly meaning that it’s all in desperate need or ironing/stain removal/burning. There are papers and folders and books everywhere as I try to decide what to bring, what not to bring, and what to throw out altogether. I think I even saw a downed tugboat or two.
I have my visa, finally, but I also have a strong suspicion that I’m going to lose my passport before Monday.
I am flying out of JFK at 7:45 Monday evening, rockin’ Air India with a short layover in London to briefly demonstrate how fantastic I am to the British before embarking on the last leg of my journay. I’ll get to Delhi at 10:30pm Tuesday night, local time, and am currently thanking every star in the sky that there will (allegedly) be someone meeting me at the airport so I don’t have to deal with pushy rickshaw drivers and even pushier pickpockets.
My program ends on December 4th, and I’ll be returning to the States at some point later in the month. I don’t yet know when. My parents are mostly convinced that I’m going to die. I’m remaining slightly more optimistic, expecting only torrid bouts of dysentery or bonebreak fever.
And mostly, I’m just busy being in awe that it’s already about that time. I leave for India on Monday, yes, but more importanly I leave for India to start my senior year of college on Monday. And THAT’S way scarier.
It’s so weird to see people I’m used to interacting with on a regular basis and thinking, “I guess I’ll catch you on the flip… hemisphere!” You all should expect great accomplishments from me in the next six months, as well as riveting Youtube documentaries on the wonders of malarial prophylaxis and patriarchal mating rites. My love to all of you, and I miss y’all already!
Peace, Love, and Possibly A Thorough Reading of the Bhagavad Gita,
~ Rick
July 10, 2008 at 12:09 pm (Pre-departure)
I have my visa! Good until 6 January, multiple entry. Commence the collective sigh of relief.
July 2, 2008 at 11:17 pm (Making A List)
In light of the fact that I am leaving for India in about 12 days, and doing a lot of thinking and planning and preparing and beginning to draft up last-minute shopping lists and realizing that no, really, I still don’t have my visa, and contemplating the fact that I should possibly panic – and that I just finished my typhoid pills today – I thought I’d write up a list of the most irritating things people have said to me about India. Most of these things have, in fact, been expressed to my face, with varying degrees of literalism. There is room for exaggeration, but I don’t have to use it much. People are ignorant enough on their own.
So here I present to you, Gentle Reader, INDIA BINGO. Or, The Top 10 Things That Irk Me When People Say, “India?”
10. “India, wow. Isn’t that dangerous?” I’m usually willing to cut these people some slack because this is a personal peeve rather than a factual one, or a sin of arrogance. Yes, sure, there are “areas of conflict” in India. There have been several terrorist and suicide attacks, in recent months even. The weather conditions, health conditions, sanitation in some areas, and distinct distance from all things Western and Right could, in some books, earn it the label of “dangerous”. But so is just about anywhere else. The Middle East? Is water wet? Europe? Violent riots in France every year, and terrorist attacks throughout Spain, the United Kingdom, Eastern Europe, and not to mention the healthy doses of anti-Semitism. Latin America? Narcoterrorism, kidnapping, yellow fever, I mean, these are all possibilities. If we want to talk possibilities. Africa? Yeah-huh. The States? September 11th did happen here after all. And violent crime rates are very high. And and and – you get my point. Yes, India is dangerous. So is walking to school in the morning. I could get hit by a bus tomorrow. I’ll take my chances.
09. “India, huh? Well, let me tell you all about India…” This is even better when it comes from someone who’s watched a documentary on the Discovery Channel once when they were twelve. The assumptions, from all around – my father, my friends, my Abroad Program Advisor – that I haven’t done the least bit of my homework, or perhaps that I can’t read altogether, has moved past grating and into maddening. Yes, I have a rough draft of the country’s geography. Yes, I know the climate and what the weather will be like and what health risks I face and what to expect culturally and how to dress, behave, conduct myself, and how to break every single bone in a person’s foot with one move. Guess what, Protestant White American Who Went To Canada That Once? I probably know more about India than you do. Way more. Sit down.
08. “Um. Wow. What on Earth made you pick India?” Sometimes asked out of interest, sometimes out of awe, and every once in a while out of smugness, like they can’t understand why I would want to go somewhere farther than New Jersey where the people are all savages that live in teepees and wear feathers – that was the Indians, right? Hur hur. I’ve begun concocting a number of answers to this question, ranging in obnoxiousness from timid to Sarah Silverman On A Bad Day. Some answers include:
- Why not?
- Because I can’t afford to live anywhere else.
- Because I always have to be difficult.
- Well, they say that 90% of accidents occur around the home. I figured I had to get as far away from home as possible.
- India? Oh, shit, no, I meant to say Indiana.
07. “But how are you going to get around? Do you speak, like, Indian?” This is only slightly less offensive than the people who have asked me if I speak Jewish. I know these people mean well. That’s why it’s so painful. That and… colonialism, bitch. They have heard of the English language in those parts. If not because of the British, then at least because of Dell.
06. *wrinkles nose* “I would never want to go there.” Well crap. What am I going to do with that extra plane ticket now?!
05. “But… how can you have family there if you’re white?” Oh my G-d, Karen, you can’t just ask people why they’re white.
04. “That’s so cool! I love Indian people. I work with someone from India.” Fashion tip? Your mouth generally looks better closed.
03. “My ex-boyfriend’s mother’s boss’s nephew’s daughter’s fiance’s goat went to India one time, and he said…” How did your brain even learn human speech? I’m just so curious.
02. “Whatever. I wouldn’t want to leave this country.” Unfortunately, I’m not quite as easily satisfied as an International Relations major who is required to spend a semester abroad and speaks three languages and is interested in globalization and an international society and foreign cultures. Some of us are actually attracted to the idea of challenging ourselves, going outside of our comfort zone, and experiencing the world from a perspective and in a society that is not majority White, majority Christian, majority… moron?
And the #1 spot on the INDIA BINGO Card…
01. “No, really, why India?” Because it was the only place I could think of that wouldn’t extradite me.